Hello My Sister In Law Have Just Been Diagnosed With Breast Cancer That Has Spread To Both Breast And Her Liver. SHE 38 WITH 3 CHILDREN 10 Year Old Boy 12 Year Old Girl And 14 Year Old Girl Mitchelle Jade & Carly We Our Taking Care Of The Children While She Has Been In Hospital. This All Happened Just Yesterday 27/09/2000 TODAY SHE HAS BEEN TOLD THERE IS NO HOPE. Everybody Is Crying And Just Totally Devastated. Having A 14 Year old Girl On The Phone Saying "THEY SAID MY MUMS GOING TO DIE" Is Something I Never Ever Want To Go Through That Again I Cried For 20 Minutes After. I Haven't Cried In Years "Can't Remember Last Time I Kept It Together

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Thanks so much for your reply and information. My breasts are largish - I wear a 38D bra so am thinking about going for the lumpectomy. I will be having radiotherapy whichever operation I have. I have been offered reconstruction if I opt for mastectomy (but not for a year or so as my doctor says my cancer is quite a dangerous type and he wants to concentrate on treatment for now). If my breast ends up fairly disfigured, do you know if reconstruction is ever carried out after a lumpectomy? thanks so much.

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For me reconstruction has been definitely worth having. But I'd highlight a couple of points: make sure your surgeon is expert at it - ask to see photographs of women he/she has operated on before. Ask how many reconstruction operations he/she carries out a month (your breast care nurse should also know how many he/she carries out). Talk over carefully exactly the sort of reconstruction operation he/she has in mind, some are more complicated and take longer to recover from. Ask your breast care nurse to put you in touch with someone who has had reconstruction (the same kind to the sort that is suitable for you) and talk to her about how she found it. Both Debbie and I talk at greater length about

reconstruction in The Breast Cancer Book.

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